This is where “equal rights” groups have gone too far. There is a difference between males and females and we need to stop saying that there isn’t. Our kids are being affected by this as well. Woman usually need a longer time off of work because they typically are nursing the baby. Their bodies are also changing from the trauma they just experienced. Yes, men can take some time off to help the mom, but in a typical situation do they need a full 12 weeks? No. We’ve become a society of “ME TOO” or “WHY NOT ME” and people are taking advantage. So now men have gone through the same trauma a woman did during child birth and they need 12 weeks off? I don’t think so.
Modern society is all about efficiency. It’s more efficient to have Mom drop the kids off at a daycare where a lower paid person can watch many kids at once, so Mom can ‘bring home the bacon.’ It’s more efficient to put Grandma or Grandpa in a rest home, where one professional can watch many, while their kids work or recreate.
To demand that your employer ante up huge bucks for this type of nonsense is just furthering employers’ efforts to hire fewer people and use efficient technology instead.
Odd, the benefit says primary care-giver, not givers. It is intended to be used when the employee is the primary care-giver. In this case, the employee clearly was not. Just another law suit troller looking for a payout.
I am a single parent. The “mother” was only involved in their life the first year, then she abandoned them, not to be heard from for 22 years. As a single dad, it was nearly impossible for me to get time off work for anything; Dentists, Doctor Appointments, School functions, etc. etc. The company I worked for presumed this was the “mother’s” job. Granted, this was the 90’s, so a while ago, but dad’s were given absolutely zero of the parenting perks given to a mother. While this does not have anything to do with the lawsuit in the article, I can absolutely tell you the way an employer looks at a father is entirely different than how they look at a mother. I won’t cry and say it isn’t fair, but it’s definitely different. In this day of “equality”, a single father gets the short end of the stick.
God bless you, smoov. I can’t even imagine raising my girls without my wife. She does EVERYTHING, from helping them pick out clothes (up to me and they’d end up wearing burlap sacks), coordinating their extracurricular activities, helping with school, etc…she’s going away for the weekend and I’m pretty anxious about it. I do commend you, sir.
Thank you Rob! It was life changing, but absolutely worth every second and all the struggles. I was only the second Missouri father to ever have sole custody of his twins. Again, it was a while ago, but it sure seems like yesterday.
jsmooth, I had my children in the 90s too. My employer would make you take half a vacation day to take time off for to take kids to doctor/dentist appointments, school functions, etc. too. Because I had a salaried position and nobody touched my accounts when out, I was then expected to put in extra time to catch-up on the 4 missed hours. Needless to say, I had no real vacation time for 10 years but still had to put in 45-55 or more hours per week. I’m at a different company now and recently one of the men in the office had a baby. My current employer allowed him to take off to go to doctor appointments with his partner every time she had one without losing vacation time. They also allowed him 2 weeks leave time. Things are getting better now.
I have a wife and 2 daughters. I can honestly say that I experience “anti-dad bias” on a daily basis.
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Modern society is all about efficiency. It’s more efficient to have Mom drop the kids off at a daycare where a lower paid person can watch many kids at once, so Mom can ‘bring home the bacon.’ It’s more efficient to put Grandma or Grandpa in a rest home, where one professional can watch many, while their kids work or recreate.
To demand that your employer ante up huge bucks for this type of nonsense is just furthering employers’ efforts to hire fewer people and use efficient technology instead.
Odd, the benefit says primary care-giver, not givers. It is intended to be used when the employee is the primary care-giver. In this case, the employee clearly was not. Just another law suit troller looking for a payout.
I am a single parent. The “mother” was only involved in their life the first year, then she abandoned them, not to be heard from for 22 years. As a single dad, it was nearly impossible for me to get time off work for anything; Dentists, Doctor Appointments, School functions, etc. etc. The company I worked for presumed this was the “mother’s” job. Granted, this was the 90’s, so a while ago, but dad’s were given absolutely zero of the parenting perks given to a mother. While this does not have anything to do with the lawsuit in the article, I can absolutely tell you the way an employer looks at a father is entirely different than how they look at a mother. I won’t cry and say it isn’t fair, but it’s definitely different. In this day of “equality”, a single father gets the short end of the stick.
God bless you, smoov. I can’t even imagine raising my girls without my wife. She does EVERYTHING, from helping them pick out clothes (up to me and they’d end up wearing burlap sacks), coordinating their extracurricular activities, helping with school, etc…she’s going away for the weekend and I’m pretty anxious about it. I do commend you, sir.
Thank you Rob! It was life changing, but absolutely worth every second and all the struggles. I was only the second Missouri father to ever have sole custody of his twins. Again, it was a while ago, but it sure seems like yesterday.
jsmooth, I had my children in the 90s too. My employer would make you take half a vacation day to take time off for to take kids to doctor/dentist appointments, school functions, etc. too. Because I had a salaried position and nobody touched my accounts when out, I was then expected to put in extra time to catch-up on the 4 missed hours. Needless to say, I had no real vacation time for 10 years but still had to put in 45-55 or more hours per week. I’m at a different company now and recently one of the men in the office had a baby. My current employer allowed him to take off to go to doctor appointments with his partner every time she had one without losing vacation time. They also allowed him 2 weeks leave time. Things are getting better now.
I was born in 1970 and my mother had post partum depression — she told me this mother’s day it never left her!………………………………………….She should sue me